Trying online dating Part 1

From the summer of 2005. Me trying to get a date with someone I met on Match.com.

ME:

On 07/17/2005 04:14 pm MDT, you wrote:

Hey, how are you?

HER:

On 07/18/2005 06:47 am MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Your profile is starting to look interesting…Would you mind adding more details to it?

ME:

On 07/18/2005 11:57 am MDT, you wrote:

Hi there Pyro, how are you? My name’s — and if you’re searching for a flame try looking in my stomach! I am really hungry right now and the hunger is burning a hole in my stomach. Ok, haha. Most of my jokes aren’t that bad. Like Friday night at the track I ordered a hamburger, the girl responded by asking me which side, I told her both sides. She wanted to know what side order I wanted and quick one that I am I told a goofy joke that she didn’t get and that she still didn’t get after I explained it to her. This joke wasn’t all that great either, but I am a pretty funny guy. Sometimes, sarcastic too. Do you like sarcasm?

I know my profile hasn’t much meat to it. I also have one on match.com. My Id there is bdtv117190. There are also a couple more pictures. Is it ok if I write you a note? That “Tell me about yourself” question stumps me.

So I guess I will start off with the big things happening with me. I recently decided to go back to school to get a new degree. I have an accounting degree but I don’t like that type of work. My new degree will either be in writing and/or art with a teaching certificate to go along with it. I start back this fall and it looks like three years to complete it. My accounting major didn’t include many Art/English courses so I have to start at the beginning. The other big thing is that I was delivering pizza as I prepared for this but it was taking too much of a toll on me and my car so I stopped doing that a couple of weeks ago. I’m not lazy and as soon as I get back from Yellowstone in three weeks I am going to go find something.

If you are still reading here’s some more. I love wolves. In fact I moved to ID in 1998 to be near them. By 2000 I was on a ranch near Yellowstone and made many trips to see wolves. I recommend meeting a wolf in person. Seeing them, being around them can be a cathartic experience.

i don’t have a real set criteria either. I’m pretty much open to dating anyone as long as we get along and enjoy each other’s company. As far as looks go some people are obviously good looking (Catherine Zeta Jones and Brad Pitt would be examples) but looks to me are more about do I like you than anything else. Personality, character can make a person attractive. So I am looking for someone who I can talk to, relate to, be friends with.

So what’s the deal with fire? Your name is Pyro and you like torches. Not criticizing, I like a good fire myself occasionally. And you would be the one driving the motorcycle, I’ve only been on one once and it was a long time ago.

So I hope I’ve given you enough to go on, there’s more…


HER:

On 07/18/2005 03:32 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Hi , That was a nice note. So are you in Yellowstone now? I was there once a couple of years ago. Astounding. I walked up very closely to an elk to take a picture. Like 3 feet away. I’m glad he didn’t attack me, it probably wasn’t the brightest thing I’ve ever done.


So teaching certifcate in Art? Been there, done that. I got my BFA in 98 from Columbus College of Art & Design, focus in Glassblowing, hence the pyro reference and the torches. I’ve also, after a year or two of classes, added a certificate to that, and just recently passed my Praxis. I’m not teaching at the moment though, so it’s all irrelevant, but I started it, so I wanted to finish. I taught art at a private school in Florida for a couple of years, but I’ve now moved back to Pittsburgh and am working at a glass studio.

Your jokes are slightly funny. But yes, I do like sarcasm, as long as I can distinguish that it is sarcasm. That’s quite a change, from Accounting to Art! Midlife crisis? There is a sarcastic tone to my voice right now. Can you hear it?

ME:

On 07/18/2005 05:52 pm MDT, you wrote:

Thanks for the compliments on my note. My finger appreciates it.

No not in Yellowstone yet, I leave Monday. Originally I was going to drive but I lost confidence in my car to make it there and back and also the desire to drive all that time by myself. Instead I’m flying into Salt Lake City and driving from there. I’ll be gone twelve days. I hope I can find enough to do to keep me busy for that long. Hmmm…

Not the smartest thing to approach an elk. I expect more from a girl with a degree in glass blowing. (that was a joke. From here on out I’ll point them out since they are only slightly funny you may miss them) A female would be less likely to charge you. Also safer if it is in an area like Mammoth where elk get approached alot. At least you didn’t approach a bear or buffalo. And trust me I’ve done dumber things like follow a grizzly path through tall grass and swim after bull sharks in Key West. You want stupid and reckless I’m your guy.

Just a little funny. (Here’s a joke I’m sure you haven’t heard) So you have a degree in blowing, and you’re single? (Is that one any better?)

You seem to have been around a bit. Yes a big difference. accounting was a big mistake and I’ve always like to draw and write so I will try doing something I like instead. If seventy-two is my midlife I need to get seriously busy. I thought I’d live to one-hundred.

My life is in a constant state of crisis. Midpoint or not. Maybe you can tutor me in art?

Have a good day


ME:

On 07/21/2005 08:10 am MDT, you wrote:

Hey there Pyro,

It’s too early in the day so I have no jokes to offer you but I am wondering if you would like to talk or meet???

Have a good day



HER:

On 07/21/2005 08:42 am MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Hi, It’s a little too early to meet I think, but if you’re going to be at your computer throughout the day, we could converse through email a few times, get a better sense of who each other is. What do you think about that?


ME:

On 07/21/2005 10:49 am MDT, you wrote:

Hi, I will be on line for a bit. I need to get a new car rental for my trip. Budget doesn’t take debit cards and I am much too loose with the spending to be trusted with a credit card ever again.

How is your name pronounced? Never seen that spelling before. My name is pronounced like “gym” if you were confused.

What do you think of my main photo? I don’t really like it but yahoo didn’t take a few others I had. Is glassblowing harder than the heating and bending experiments we did in intro to chemistry? I had a hard time with that but got an A in the class.

HER:

On 07/21/2005 12:02 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

So, wait a minute. No car, no money or credit, no job. Enticing, where do I sign up?

There is slight sarcasm in my voice, but not complete. You do seem adventurous and interesting though, which is often much more exciting than some of those boring guys that have jobs.

I think your photo is quite cute.

One aspect of glassblowing is bending the tubes, but remember, we are making art here, so it can become much more difficult. And that is flameworking, using a torch. There is also glassblowing, where the molten glass is gathered out of a furnace or kiln, and then shaped using gravity, centrifigal force, and steel tools.

ME:

On 07/21/2005 01:00 pm MDT, you wrote:

go to loser.com and do a search for middle-aged, unemployed confused cute men…

Listen here. I have a car, and money (enough to live off for a year), very good credit (the last lady I dated ran it for me) and some direction and ambition. I just don’t have a credit card. Is it so bad to not have a credit card? Had I known I would be joining a repressed minority (sarcasm alert) when I shut it off I…well I still would have. Nothing wrong with being an underdog.

And ok I don’t have a job. But these are modern times baby, (heavy sarcasm there, don’t confuse it with sexism) men don’t need jobs. Women are working now, haven’t you noticed?

I have goals, just not in a big hurry to reach them. People who set goals for themselves then madly go about acheivng them, you know happens when they reach their goals? They set NEW ones! The feeling of satisfaction on having reached their goals last as long as the martini in their hands and then its over. And the process starts again. One set of goals per lifetime is enough for me.

You’re cute too!

HER:

On 07/21/2005 02:03 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Oh, I thought I was already on loser.com

I didn’t mean to offend you if I did. I tell you what though, some of the people on here…..There are all these guys saying ” I’m 5’11, blue eyes, great hair, and i work out, and they post these pictures of themselves caressing their own bodies…so shallow and superficial. Give me someone with some substance or I’ll be bored in a week! And they have this idea in their head that they are a great catch. Whatever! So many people in society think that there is this formula for life, that if they follow it, they will be “a successful citizen” and they just end up miserable anyway. And you’re right, once you acheive one goal,you just go to the next one, which is what you are doing too, but your goals aren’t focused around career and money, but on your enjoyment of life.

Her:

On 07/21/2005 02:04 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Oh yeah, thank you for the clarification on the pronunciation of your name. mine is pronounced like “chenille”, but with a D

ME:

On 07/21/2005 02:18 pm MDT, you wrote:

Well, I am not 5’11 and I am more tired than you of having to listen to guys tell me I am taller than I am so they can also be two inches taller. I don’t know about the caressing their bodies bit, sounds wierd. Which is saying alot coming from me.

So are you at work now? Has to be hotter than hell…I am cleaning my refrigerator. I am toying with the idea of selling it and getting a new one. It will depend on how much this trip ends up costing. I’ll probably deep clean my whole apartment before I leave. Give me a sense of accomplishment after being off work for four weeks. Before I quit I thought how great it will be to not have to go in there anymore and for a week-and-a-half it was. No matter how much I try to do there is still too much time left in the day. I need some time of job I can do at my leisure.

You didn’t offend me. I am realistic about who I am and can joke about it. Face it. I’m thirty-six, umemployed and not exactly sure where my life is headed. No secrets there. If you want to offend me tell I’m something I am not. Being accused of what is not true really pisses me off.

So, tell me one thing that would cause people to tell you you beat to your own drum

HER:

On 07/21/2005 02:42 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Well, Gym, I suppose that I do not engage myself in much of the socially expected womanly behavior. I don’t often wear make-up, I hate things like Bridal Showers and such, I like tools, ride a motorcycle, don’t like gossip… I would suppose it’s probably mostly been my mother that has told me that. Always pushing me to “Get a Real Job”. Save up money in your 401K so you can enjoy life when you’re retired.”

What the hell am I going to do when I’m retired?! I’ll be old! I’d rather enjoy life now, when I’m young and my body and mind are in working condition.

I am working now, in my little office space, with my computer and health benefits….at the glass studio

HER:

On 07/22/2005 07:22 am MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

You like Belgian Beer? Ever been to the Sharp Edge? One of my favorite hang-outs.

Lucky for me, I was actually able to land myself a job with a paycheck, in my field, doing something I like to do. The way I see it, you spend a great majority of your time at your work, so it damn well better be something you enjoy. I suppose that’s why you’ve dropped the accounting.

ME:

07/22/2005 07:57 am MDT, you wrote:

Belgium beer is my favorite, used to be German. Never been to the Sharp Edge, never heard of it actually. I assume its either in town or east of town? When I drink I stay close to home. I’m kinda a light weight and with the higher alcohol content of Belgium beer two usually do me in. Sometimes I can hit three but most of the time that is just too much beer in one sitting.

I take it you are working again today? I am going to finish cleaning and start to do some rearranging. Know anyone that need a couch? I’ve about had it with mine.

HER:


On 07/22/2005 08:52 am MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

what kind of couch? Is it nice. I was planning on buying one for the new house, I left my old one in Florida, didn’t fit in the minivan.

Yes, I’m working, I do some administrative type stuff, event planning/marketing/you name it, for the studio, tha’s what gives me the steady paycheck(not that it’s big, but…) Then I get free reign of the studio, which is a big plus, normal rental rates range from 32-45 bucks/hour.

Sharp Edge is a bar over here on the East Side, I believe they’ve got the largest selection of Belgian beers in the country. Hundreds of them. And, a plus for me, it’s walking distance from my apt. On

ME:

On 07/22/2005 09:53 am MDT, you wrote:

It is nice couch, about five feet long, wide thick cushions, older with a floral design. comfy to nap on.

Doesn’t it suck having to leave things behind when moving, then having to buy them all over again? Like spending double for something you already have.

Sharp Edge, I’m going to have to check them out. I go to Burgh’s in Bridgeville, pretty good selection and a three minute drive. I’m on a first name basis with all the bartenders which is good. Choosing a beer to have can be difficult some times. Watching me order in a restaurant could be a reality show.

I have other stuff for sale too. Today is an exciting day. My new spotting scope is coming. I am so excited!

ME:

On 07/22/2005 10:09 am MDT, you wrote:

WOW! I am moving to East Liberty TODAY!

The place got slammed on a review site for being slimy and expensive. Their prices seemed to be in line. It is premium imported beer afterall. Some pittsburghers can be quite cheap.

Have you been to the east end fooo co-op. Its one of my favorite places in the city. Good vibes there.

HER:

On 07/22/2005 11:40 am MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

Well, the Sharp Edge is somewhat of a dive, and the average Pittsburgher wouldn’t know a good beer if it landed on their head, let alone pay $8 for one! The food co-op is one of those places that’s been on my list of places to go for quite some time, I just haven’t made it yet for some reason. I have a friend that works there and one that volunteers, so I do plan to go soon. If you want, when you get back from Yellowstone (provided you don’t get eaten by a pack of wolves) maybe we could grab a Belgian Brewsky.

ME:

On 07/22/2005 12:40 pm MDT, you wrote:

Fistfuls of Coors Lights!

In the long run one or two good beers will cost the same as the handfuls of garbage beer, and taste better.

I would like that, if I get that close to wolves I may not return!

My scope came. It is huge! 100mm objective lens. Didn’t realize how big it would be.

I always get this wierd feeling before I go on trips, like I am dreading it or making a mistake. Then when I get there I’m fine. Long travel days don’t excite me much.

I return Aug 6. What do we do in the meantime? I may take my computer to download pictures on. Would you like me to send some

HER:

On 07/22/2005 12:48 pm MDT, “hotglasschik” wrote:

OK, I guess you’re starting to grow on me. That’ d be great if you want to send me some pictures or update me on your daily goings-on during your trip. Not too many pics though, clog up my computer.

Question: Do you like traveling alone, or is it just how things worked out?

I like to do alot of things by myself, sometimes another person just slows you down. But some things are better when you have someone to share them with.

ME:

On 07/22/2005 01:09 pm MDT, you wrote:

I recently figured out that pixel size can be adjusted to take smaller or larger photos depending on the intended use. Any I send along will be smaller.

I don’t really like travelling alone, it’s usually how it works out. My mother says I fly by the seat of my pants and don’t give anyone notice. And my trips are either unplanned or poorly planned and made up as you go. (Like the current one.) which most people don’t really like. And no one I know has the “flexibility” with their life that I do and can’t just abandon things and go. Plus I’ve had a couple bad experiences travelling with others that ruined the trip so I’m a little weary.

I guess it can be more fun sharing the experience with other people but I hate planning ahead, even going to the movies is a last second rush. No one else is like that. At least among the people I know.

People get worried when you tell them you are going alone somewhere. Even for day hikes I would hear it. I know there are dangers but I won’t not do something because of a threat.

i’m like the flu virus. innoculate yourself now or I’ll be with a long time.

ME:

On 07/22/2005 02:10 pm MDT, you wrote:

Um, I will need your e-mail address. Impossible to attach photos here.

send it to



ME:

On 07/22/2005 01:11 pm MDT, you wrote:

actually, the reason I changed from driving to flying is because I didn’t feel like making the trip alone.

HER:

Date: Friday, July 22, 2005, 2:46 PM

Well, I don’t often like making plans ahead of time either.  I just don’t ever know what i will feel like doing a week ahead, or even a few days ahead.  My mother hates that too.  She plans these family vacations months and months in advance and I’m always like “I have no idea what my life will be like in 5 months. I can’t tell you exactly what day to book a plane ticket”.   So this time we’ve switched to driving, we’ll first  be going to Jacksonville to pick up my little bro and his girlfriend, cramming in the car, then all going to Tampa”.  I can’t say I’m neccessarily looking forward to it, but I’ll try to make the best of the situation.  I’m just not sure how I’m going to handle 30 hours in the car with my mom, not to mention the week in between.  I’m a redhead right now, but I may be gray by the end of that.  Second week of August. And people actually book hotel rooms in advance?  What’s up with that? How do they know where they’re going to be?  Crazy I tell ya, just crazy.  Besides, planning things in advance just makes everything more stressful.

One thing that I don’t like, is when someone calls you on Friday night, and says, “well, i don’t know what I’m doing yet, but I’ll call you when I know”.  Actually what they mean is “I don’t know what my friends have planned for me to do….”   It’s like they can’t make their own decision or something.  immature.   If you’d like to do something with me, then ask me.  If you’d rather do something with your friends, then do it, but if your too afraid to make your own decision, then don’t waste my time, because I have better things to do than sit around and wonder if someone’s going to call me back.  Whatever, I’m just rambling.  Bye

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ME:

Date: Friday, July 22, 2005, 4:19 PM

Sorry, I didn’t mean to get you started. People can be a pain in the ass like that. Grin and bear it the English say. What’s the purpose of your Florida trip? It can’t be too bad if your family still takes vacations together.

plannning in advance does make things stressful. It alot to think about planning every little detail. so I don’t do it. And as long as I am active I am happy. For instance, in Costa Rica the other students decided to take a weekend trip to Manuel Antonio national park. There were some real go getters who were making plans in advance and deciding on thursday if i wanted to do something saturday was too much hassle for a vacation. so i waited til saturday to decide, did something else had fun and was happy about it. Also I got to save the life of a snake which would’ve died if i had went on the trip which made me feel good. that last thing you are talking about sounds like when someone is waiting for a better offer.

Second week in August? Am I going to have to wait a month for that beer? What are you doing tommorrow?

HER:

Date: Saturday, July 23, 2005, 8:28 AM

Yes, that last part I was was rambling about is when someone is waiting for a better offer. 

Tomorrow, which may be today, Saturday, I will be working in the glass studio ALLDAY, which is a total shame, because it has got to be the most gorgeous day of the year outside.  I am hoping that my friend and I can finish this commission project we’ve been working on, and I can possibly, by next weekend, regain somewhat of a social life.  I’m usually dog tired by the end of an 8 hour glassblowing workday in the summer, But I may meet a friend out in Bloomfield for a beer around 10ish, or, I may veg and watch a movie by myself and fall asleep by 10.  Last night was a great party though.  I was actually just toying with the thought of taking off to Corning, NY (A GLASS STUDIO/MUSEUM/TOWN) because I know quite a few people that will be teching there this week, but I just don’t think I can make it happen this week.  I have a billion things happening this week, so maybe NEXT week. 

What fun and active outdoor activity will you be engaging in this afternoon?  Hopefully not sitting here writing to me. I’ll be starting working in about 5 mionutes, just waiting for all the equipment to get HOT!   When are you leaving, Monday?  If you want, give me a call tonight or tomorrow(Sunday).



ME:

Saturday, July 23, 2005, 3:05 PM

Hi, how was your day? Beautiful morning and very nice afternoon too. looks like 90’s for the coming week. Does the heat bother you, or are you used to it?

Well today my sister and I had plans to go see Wedding Crashers. Our mother came to. An 11:10 show, love those early shows. Anyway afterwards my sister had errands, then we picked up my brother’s dog who my mother and sister are babysitting (he’s at Ozfest) then had lunch. I’ve been lounging around on the couch resting and debating a bike ride. My ex-coworker Randy called I’m sure to play poker tonite. Not sure if I can risk losing even a small amount of money before my trip but I enjoy playing and have a hard time saying no. A side benefit to this trip will be time away from the tables. Not losing my ass but I’ve been playing regularly and needa break. One thing sitting out in the woods is good for is clearing all the shit out of your head. I also need to do laundry, pack, etc…but a beer at Burgh’s could be on tap (no pun intended)

I am going to call you before I go (Monday am) which means most likely you will get this message after I’ve left

Talk to you later

ME:

Date: Wednesday, July 27, 2005, 8:06 PM

Hi from Yellowstone, somebody needs to hit me on the head for leaving here five years ago. Haven’t seen any wolves yet, mostly bison and bull elk. Tons of bison around. Have done some hiking. I’m picking the trails the rangers are warning people off of. You know, the ones with the grizzlies on them. But no luck yet seeing any, or is it good luck? People here are petrified of them. Like they actually set out to hunt humans. Love this digital camera thing. Can take unlimited numbers opf pictures and never have to rebuy film. Howe was the beer sunday?

Talk to you soon

HER:

Date: Thursday, July 28, 2005, 6:43 AM

I glad to hear you are having a great time!  I hope you get to see some bears but that they don’t eat you.  It has actually cooled down a bit here.  Last night I went to catch a flick (Phantom of the Opera) outside at  Schenley Park and wore jeans and a long sleeve shirt and was actually cold.  So did you live out there before?  Hey, what are you doing with your computer out in the wilderness anyway?  You’re supposed to be soul-searching.

Talk to you soon, I have to go buy my house now.

ME:

Friday, July 29, 2005, 9:40 PM

Hi, the trip got much better tonite – I watched a wolf feed off a bisosn carcass for almost half-n-hour!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HER:


Date: Saturday, July 30, 2005, 10:33 AM

Greeeaaat!  That’s beautiful.  I hope you got photos of that!

ME:

Date: Tuesday, August 2, 2005, 3:10 PM

I didn’t that night. My camera adaptor was in my car about sixty yards away and I didn’t want to leave my scope alone. Once the crowd built up it got kicked a few times. The next night a different wolf showed up and fed for about forty minutes. I got a few shots of him. He scared off a grizzly bear to get to feed. Once he left the bear came right back. Since then no wolves, just one black wolf way far off. Black bears everywhere. glad to hear the weather is nicer back there. It got hot here. How’s the house deal going and do you know when you are going to FLA? I would like to meet if there’s time.

HER:

Date: Tuesday, August 2, 2005, 4:00 PM

Watching animals eat each other is really gross.  But… there is something intriguing about it.  I mean, it’s really no different than a human eating a steak, but we seem to disguise everything so well, make it sophisticated.  What else are you doing? exploring the landscape? Writing poetry?  I hope you took your sketchbook with you.  That is lesson #1.  ALWAYS have your sketchbook, especially on occassions as such.  You could have drawn that wolf eating the bison and really tried to capture the gnarly ferociousness of it tearing into the bloody flesh.

Like that?  It’s different than a photograph, because a photo only captures one single moment, but a drawing can be made to span an entire event.

i think we are going to miss each other, I’m leaving on Friday afternoon, I don’t think I’ll be taking my laptop, but i will have me phone.  I think I’ll be back around the 14th.

ME:

Friday, August 5, 2005, 10:01 AM

Hi, you are most likely on your way to FLA and will not get this for a while but…Have a great time! I look forward to trading vacation stories with you over a Belgium brew at…I forgot its name, oops. Saw wolves several more times, not as close as last weekend but wolves are wolves

I’ll talk to you soon, I think I will call you

Later

ME:

Match.comSunday, August 14, 2005, 8:44 AM   Good morning,   How exhausted are you? I hope the drive home went well and you and your mom are still speaking… so do you work tomorrow? when is the move in? I am free to help if you need. Excellent first date I think. Would certainly be a first, at least for me. I have some date ideas. Steeler games Mon and Sat and Megadeth on Wed. I believe my mother still has the tickets for the two games. She is having trouble selling them. She had to pay full price with the season ticket package and nobody is offering more than twenty bucks for them so I could probably get them.   I am back to Ikea today to buy a piece of furniture and then I don’t know what else, maybe a movie. I can’t wait to meet you but I am torn between calling and giving you time to settle in and take care of moving.   So well, talk to you later    


ME:  

Saturday, August 13, 2005, 9:27 AM

Hi, how are you and welcome back. Out of the frying pan and into the fryer. How was the drive back? I haven’t received any phone calls yet so I assume my> idea was more helpful than not. ‘Course it is still Sat morning and you are probably somewhere in NC still. Well I suppose I should start looking for a part time job. I was in Borders yesterday, so many books to buy. A fifty percent employee discount would be nice…   Here is the first pic from the trip. I didn’t want to send too many before you returned as some have large pixels and may have clogged your e-mail. Its taking a while to get them attached as is. I sign=up for dsl, that should make it quicker   do you like Megadeth? They’re at Station Square Wednsday would you like to go?   Talk to you soon    


HER:  

Date: Monday, August 15, 2005, 9:40 AM

Hi, sorry for not getting back sooner to you sooner.   Brutal honesty?   i started seeing somebody while you were away.  I’m not the kind of person to juggle more than one romantic interest at the same time, but I would still like to meet you on a friendly basis, since i’ve enjoyed all of our conversations.  let me know if you’re still interested.   What in the world is that black thing that you sent me a picture of?  Is it a bird?    


ME:  

Monday, August 15, 2005, 11:04 AM  

Hi, thank you   The Sharp Edge is having some sort of Stella Artois bartender contest. If I can get in I’ll be there. If you are interested I’ll give you some clue how to recognize me.   It is a raven. Mean looking birds aren’t they?    

HER:  

Date: Monday, August 15, 2005, 11:16 AM

When is the bartender contest?  You used to bartend I take it?  Me too.  Have we had this conversation?  

ME:  

Date: Monday, August 15, 2005, 11:51 AM  

Tomorrow nite, not sure of the time. nothing on the web site, I am going to call. there’s a write up in todays PG. Never bartended, you told me you did. not cut out for it, too much to keep track of at once. I love Stella Artois and since meeting you (HAVE we met yet, does talking on the phone count as meeting someone) would like to see this place. Can’t say I’ll be drinking much with the long drive home but still it should be interesting enough.  

HER:   Who/what is Stella Artois? Let me know what time and I’ll see you there. I feel that I’ll probably recognize you. I’ll be able to tell by the look in your eye that you are looking for me, and then when you see me, or someone who you think may be me, there will be a look on your face stating, “is that you?” and that is a dead give away. But just to save the embarrassment of possibly approaching the wrong person, you can let me know what you are wearing.    

ME:   Stella Artois is a very good Belgium beer. One of my favorites and my introduction to Belgium beer. I don’t know yet what I’ll be wearing but something involving shorts and a t-shirt. Big help? It shouldn’t be too hard since we’ve seen pics of each other. It starts at 6:30.   See ya there    

HER:   Hey, is there like a cover charge for this thing?  

ME:  

Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 8:39 AM  

I don’t know but will find out  

HER:    

Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 9:56 AM

I don’t usually travel with cash, that’s why I asked, I’ll have to stop at the ATM if there is a cover.  I only have $2 right now.

ME:  

Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 12:08 PM  

Those people there don’t answer their phone but the other sharp edge said there’s probably not a cover which I can’t see why there would be considering the winner advances to another contest in boston. Two dollars? I wish I had two dollars. I’ll probably go to the food co-op first. can you tell where in east lib this place is?  

HER:   I would say the easiest way from the co-op is to go around Penn Circle, past the demolished building at Negley (stay on Penn) then get into the right lane and merge onto Friendship Ave.  It will be right there, after the first block.  If you get lost,  it’s very close to the intersection of Friendship & Negley.  

ME:  

Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 2:11 PM  

thanks, see you there  

HER:  

Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 2:53 PM  

Will you be arriving at 6:30?  I think Happy Hour goes until 7.  I can stay for a little bit!    

ME:  

Date: Tuesday, August 16, 2005, 7:36 PM  

hi, I just noticed why you’re name has a capital D instead of lower case – it’s a different email address! Boy, nothing gets by me! whew…   Well I had a good time, you were more than I expected. Better looking, better personality…    Friends?    

HER:    

Wednesday, August 17, 2005, 8:01 AM  

Yeah, for some reason I emailed you from my work address.  I had a good time last night also, it was fun.  You shouldn’t lie about your height though, well maybe a slight exaggeration is OK.  But, one little lie leads to another lie, and another, and so on.  Then you don’t know if you can believe anything the person says!  S   So, did you get to watch Bridget Jones last night?    Your Friend, 🙂    

ME:  

Wednesday, August 17, 2005, 9:08 AM  

I didn’t lie, I rounded up! Adding a half inch isn’t a big deal. Besides you thought I was 6’1    Got started, watched some more with breakfast, will finish later. Have to decide if I want to see Megadeth tonite. I forgot to bring your cup. Damn. first I pay double for a beer then buy a cup and forget to give it to you, this morning I was supposed to bring my mother home from the garage but forgot. In a span of twelve hours I forgot three things. It usually takes a full day to forget that much.    

HER:  

Wednesday, August 17, 2005, 9:57 AM

I thought you were 5″11, not 6″1!    I  think anything over 5″8 is acceptable to most average sized women.   It sounds like you’re having a tough day, I hope it gets better.  Get your head screwed on, boy!    

ME:    

Date: Thursday, August 18, 2005, 9:53 AM  

If I remember correctly you initially said 6’1 then changed to 5’11 then said something about being closer to 5’2. And you did say Belgiummy, I HEARD you!   My day got a little better. That is after taking four hours to install dsl and discovering I was overdrawn on my checking account. Oops. Megadeth was good last, much better than the last version in 2001. My ears rang so loud it kept me up all night.   I am sending you a pic of my couch. My sale is this Sat. It’s big and comfortable. If you wanted to go with something new it could do well as a cheap second couch for your game room or bedroom.   So I’m very cute huh? How are things with this David character? Maybe he’s not as cute as me? I would like to take you out on a proper date.    

HER:  

Date: Friday, August 19, 2005, 8:59 AM

Well, David is  6’2″.  Blonde & Blue.  Electrical Engineer.  Financially stable.  Emotionally stable.  Gives the best foot rubs imaginable, and treats me like I’ve always wanted to be treated. But…if things don’t work out, I’ll let you know.   You were a perfect gentleman the other night though, just want to let you know that I appreciated it.    I played hooky from work yesterday to do some work on my house before I move in this weekend.  The kitchen is finished being painted and my mom offered to paint inside the closets and scrub my hardwood floors on her hands and knees.  Can’t argue with that! Everything is ready to move in.  I’ve already got most of my stuff there, just down to the furniture and bare essentials.   Glad you enjoyed the Megadeth.  As you get older, you should realize that you are going to make yourself go deaf if you don’t wear earplugs to that kind of stuff!  Is this your last weekend before you start classes?    

ME:  

 Date: Friday, August 19, 2005, 2:37 PM  

Those first couple of sentences there had me out on a ledge but I pushed you so I was asking for it.   Last weekend yes, big sale is tomorrow. At least I’m hoping it will be big. You should buy something for your new house…It wasn’t really Megadeth as the band before them. Megadeth wasn’t too loud except for the explosions.   My mother was over helping me prepare for the sale…I hope when yours does the floor and closet she doesn’t try to make to feel like an idiot like mine does to me.   Finished Bridget Jones, it is Hugh Grant that loses. Won seventy bucks playing poker last night. Do you play?    

HER:  

Date: Friday, August 19, 2005, 2:58 PM

Well, yes my mother does make me feel like an idiot, or she at least thinks that I am one.  Like I’ve never cleaned before or something, and like it’s rocket science.  Not to mention she DRIVES ME UP THE WALL!   i won’t be able to make it to your sale tomorrow, it’s the big moving day for me.  I hope everything goes well for ya.  Thanks for the offer of the couch, but… no game room, and I’ve already got a loveseat that I don’t like that is going in the extra bedroom.     Sorry if I was rude concerning my Dave, but I wanted you to know that I like him very much and things are going wonderfully.  I don’t want to lead you on, I’m sure you’ve got better things to do with your time.    I have played poker before on a friendly basis, but I suck, and I’m not much into gambling because I always loose.  Lucky for you though. $90!  Hey, maybe you can buy ONE of you books with that!  It’s a crying shame what they charge you for a boring text that you don’t read.   5:00!  Have a good weekend!    

ME:  

Date: Monday, August 22, 2005, 1:02 PM  

Maybe we should switch mother’s. Yesterday mine told me I needed to go on anti-depressants. This was after making me feel like an asshole Friday. No wonder I was depressed.   The sale was a disaster saturday. Only about twenty people showed up and i made a whole $13.25 which barely covered the cost of the signs that I made. I’m in kinda a goofy area in that people out driving around for the day would never drive by my house. You need a reason to actually come up on the hill. I rented movies with it and ate out.   First day off class is over. Two lit classes today. The instructors spent the time going on the syllabus so the first real class will be weds. My other two classes are once a week night classes and won’t start for two weeks. Lots of writing and presentations so far. Plus we have to write and illustrate a book for my childrens lit class. I tried to get into an art class but they only offer two and everything is full. it is always like that but they never add classes.   how’d moving go?   Talk to you later    

HER:  

Date: Friday, August 26, 2005, 7:24 AM

hey, I hope classes are going well for you.  Do you think you’ll like the Children’s lit class?  I Think it sounds like fun. That’s a bum deal about your sale.  Sometimes things like that are more effort than they’re worth.  It’s just easier to throw stuff out the window.   I am all settled into my house.  Well, not completely.  My refrigerator got delivered yesterday, so that helps.  There was already one there that worked, but it was in the basement, and to get it upstairs I would have had to wheel it around the block because it wouldn’t fit through the doorways.  More trouble than it’s worth.  Not really in this case, but it was old and I figured it would probably have broken down soon anyway.   As far as going on anti-depressants….They work, but I don’t recommend it unless you want to stay on them forever.  My doctor in Florida put me on Paxil because I was having social anxiety problems a couple of years ago.  It’s an SSRI antidepressant, and when I tried getting off of it…Look out, depressed city.  Much worse than I ever was before. So then I switched to Wellbutrin, which is a different type, to ween myself off the Paxil.  I’m OK now, but I’m still taking Wellbutrin.  But I was able to quit smoking!  Yippee!    

ME:    

Date: Friday, August 26, 2005, 11:17 AM  

Hi, congratulations on finally being in your new house!   The anti-depressant I’m on is a chinese herbal thing called Jia Wei Xiao Yao Wan or live ease plus pill. She’s not a doctor so she can’t give me real drugs. 16 pills a day for five days then 12 for ten days. I was on zoloft in early 2001 for stress/depression and it worked. Worked well as an appetite suppressant too. Dr. Wang seems very concerned about me. She worry’s because I don’t have a girlfriend. not much can be done about that I tell her.   School was dull. I added a drawing class on Tues and Thurs. The instructor does shows all over the world so naturally he is weird and he also mumbles. Used book prices are ridiculous. Childs Lit looks like it will be fun. Reading kids books and all. Had a nice big pile of trash for the garbage men, some things are too nice to pitch so I’m trying the pennysaver.   Talk to you later    

ME:      

Date: Friday, September 2, 2005, 11:38 AM  

Hi, how are you?    Well guess what, I got a job! Can you believe? I can’t myself. first day is tommorrow. I’m a representative for the Blue Buffalo dog food company. They make holistic dog food using all natural ingredients. I cant say they make and sell because the store they put me at sells one bag of food a week and that is to an employee. my sales numbers have no where to go but up though it will be tough with no customer base at all.   school is wierd. Very little work so far. Wed in childrens lit we formed groups and read to each other. One girl in my group read ‘Little Red Riding Hood’ the original version and I read a book i picked up in yellowstone.   Any plans this weekend? I work, I may have a date. I got stood up Sunday. I have a few woman more interested in me as friends than for dating. Women who have their shit together and are looking for a guy who is the same. But I’m too irresistibly cute for them to pass up I guess. How are things with Dave?   I bet you can’t wait to get home every day to be in your new house. What a good feeling that must be   Have a good weekend    

ME:    

Date: Saturday, October 22, 2005, 7:37 AM  

Hi, how you been?   Two months in and classes are going pretty well. Got A’s on a paper and essay test for Amer Lit, in Children’s Lit I’ve been losing points due to grammar, World Lit has been a little tougher, got a C on are only test so far, finding out Greek tragedy is not as bad as I thought though not easy to read. I may end up having to go to Pitt a semester sooner than expected. CCAC’s course offerings are pretty week for the spring.   I’m enjoying the writing. My sister wants me to apply for a reporter job with the Almanac. Thinks my little quips would go over in print.   How have you been? Had a bad date a few weeks ago. We met online and had lunch at a Thai restuarant in Shadyside. Pulled my ads, too busy to keep up so can’t justify the expense. Been working more, back to delivering pizzas.   How’s the house coming along? Been to the Sharp Edge much? Haven’t had time to go out much lately. Nor the desire.   Looks like I must recharge my battery.   Take it easy    


ME:      

Date: Wednesday, April 12, 2006, 8:52 AM  

Hi, how’ve you been?   Things are ok with me. They will be much better when this semester ends. So much writing this semester. Plus I’ve had to work so I’ve been tired and behind for like two straight months now.   I had two classes at Pitt and two at CCAC. The Pitt classes are much harder than the ones at CCAC – go figure. Learned alot about writing in an ADV Comp. class, the instructor is really good. We’re reading Light in August in my Critical Reading class. Ever read Faulkner? He’s not easy.     Hope things are going well with you and your new house   take it easy    

HER:  

Wednesday, April 12, 2006, 9:53 AM

Hi, glad to hear you are doing well.  Remember that guy I was seeing that I thought was great?  PSYCHO!!!  HOLY COW!  We finished up in October after I had become anorexic from the stress he was causing me.  Oh yeah, in his mind I cheated on him be meeting you out that night at the Sharp Edge.    However, I have been seeing someone for about  5 months now and we are both in love with each other. Someone I’ve known for quite a while through my art circle, things are going very well, and I have never been happier.  I am so glad that I never settled for anyone else.  I never expected things could feel so right.  Yeah me!   I have been visiting match.com recently.  For my mom.  She has finally ditched the loser she’s been with for 10 years and is trying the internet thing, which has become quite a hassle for me since, not only does she not HAVE a computer, but also doesn’t know HOW to work one.  Which puts me at the keyboard giving her instructions on exactly how to right-click.  AUGH!!   I’ve heard of Faulkner but don’t think I’ve ever read anything.  I recently finished another John irving novel, and just finished my first Nicholas Sparks.  He was OK.   The house is coming along, it’s just about time to get outside and do a little landscaping.  You know, plant some flowers and stuff.  maybe a tree.  I’m also looking for a baby kitten.   Take Care,    

ME:  

Wednesday, April 12, 2006, 11:14 AM   Hey,   Don’t see how it is possible to be cheating on someone you’ve only been dating for a week but people are weird. I had a great date with someone last month but a couple of days later she told me I was too old for her (37-29) which doesn’t seem like it to me and she knew how old I was before we went out. Her rejection hurt. Lots of people play too many games online but I don’t have the time to go out so I’m still trying.   Tell your mom good luck.      

This was the last contact.                                                                      

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